Comments on Your Beard is Good: An Open Letter to Women

Laurenne - If his chest was like mounds of butter ...

2011-09-14T11:54:05.859-07:00

Laurenne - If his chest was like mounds of butter wouldn't your hand go into his heart? that seems dangerous.

RS- I drive a Honda Civic.

Suzanne - This cracked me up. "I've dated some seriously ugly men." I can spell cat. that's pretty smart.

Junket - Yes! Can I put that quote on my resume?

Mystic - I can't string a grammatically correct sentence together. We must be fraternal twins.

Moooog- Knock Knock Who's there. It'a lame to do a knock knock joke to yourself. I stink.

VA- The whole point is that the first thing humans notice is looks. It's not humor, smarts, or anything else. Eventually that makes someone more attractive. WHY CAN'T IT BE EASY?!!?

Tenny- let's be best friends. and have a best friends party. I'll make the cake.

Jewel- You are invited to the best friends party.

laurenne- two comments! You're the best. By looker do you mean person that likes staring?

Chevious- Now I'm singing "Somewhere Out There" I just lost 3 dates.

Hello Rahul, Found you through Red Stethescope, a...

2011-09-12T08:20:57.415-07:00

Hello Rahul,

Found you through Red Stethescope, and boy am I glad I did! You are simply hilarious. If you lived in LA (lower Alabama) I'd definitely stalk you. :) Now I have to go back and read your blog from the beginning. And don't worry, she's out there, somewhere. You're too cute not to find someone!

I agree with Junket (per usual!!). You are very f...

2011-09-10T13:51:49.021-07:00

I agree with Junket (per usual!!).
You are very funny AND quite a looker.

I think you totally got it right by saying that nu...

2011-09-08T00:57:36.911-07:00

I think you totally got it right by saying that number one is someone who is attractive to you. Women are completely superficial and for the most part will never admit it. They want to seem well rounded and evolved, but really, they just don't know/ won't admit that something physically attracted them to the other person and they found other traits not related to physicality they found to be pleasing.

The nice thing is that usually the opposite sex will find something totally unique that possible one didn't know about themselves or even realize was attractive.

No, I think Beardy's right. I'm also kind...

2011-09-07T18:44:29.129-07:00

No, I think Beardy's right. I'm also kind of funny but not particularly handsome and was, forever, the go to 'friend' of all the women I met. But then, I met my wife - who I was attractive to. So what does this all mean? I don't know, maybe it just takes time to meet the right person? It also means that I agree, being cute really does help in the intial 'meet and greet' stages.

Now see, that is true then it's not true. You...

2011-09-07T11:59:54.676-07:00

Now see, that is true then it's not true. You are correct of course. Looks do count. I don't mean all women need to find a man who is catalogue handsome with chiselled features and abs etc. You just need to find something small that's attractive about them and the truth is, if the guy has a personality that is attractive, he is going to look that more attractive as well. It's a combination of both.

But "looks" doesn't always mean we ladies want a Brad Pitt or a George Clooney. It's not that black and white. Plus as you said, everyone's idea of "cute" is different (attractive to ME). I'd much rather have a guy who is super smart and makes me laugh than a guy obsessed over his abs.

Me, I do go for humour and smarts over looks for the most part. Only a tiny proportion of it is physical attraction for me. It's not to say that I'd date someone I found repellent to look at just because he was funny, necessarily, but at the same time, he doesn't need to be Adonis either. Just normal. His personality will do the rest. There's nothing more alluring than an intelligent, funny guy.

Also, I think if you get to know a person and find their personality more and more appealing, you naturally find THEM more appealing too.

But yeah, no one's automatically going to go out with someone who isn't their "type" looks wise, if that's the first thing you know about them.

Gosh, it's complicated!

I disagree. Women date me BECAUSE I'm funny. ...

2011-09-07T06:20:57.348-07:00

I disagree.

Women date me BECAUSE I'm funny. I hear it all the time.

It doesn't hurt that I have the looks of an Adonis, but I'm pretty sure that's secondary to my knock-knock jokes.

Hope it helps!

Dear Rahul, I am your female equivalent. I'm ...

2011-09-07T00:48:02.568-07:00

Dear Rahul,

I am your female equivalent. I'm the girl that good looking guys wouldn't notice for obvious reasons. I'm also the girl that average looking guys would pass over for a better looking friend.

I also meet men who complain about not meeting women who can string a grammatically correct sentence together, but stop calling me the minute they glimpse my book collection.

It sucks to be both of us, for sure. We also share the South Indian gene. I would like to blame it on that.

I agree with Laurenne (per usual) because all the ...

2011-09-06T22:10:12.277-07:00

I agree with Laurenne (per usual) because all the other superficial stuff goes out the window when you find the things you really like about a person.

Oh, and for the record, don't sell yourself short because you're one of the funniest people I've ever met AND you're very handsome.

So there.

Rahul, I am the girl who blow your entire theory t...

2011-09-06T15:05:41.127-07:00

Rahul, I am the girl who blow your entire theory to bits. I have dated some seriously ugly men. Just ask Jenny or Lauren. They will be happy to tell you how unattractive my exes are. It's actually a running joke.

But on the other hand, I'm not looking for funny. I'm looking for smart. The smarter the guy the more attractive he is to me.

I think that the caveat to this is that the funny ...

2011-09-06T13:45:47.782-07:00

I think that the caveat to this is that the funny guys often get one of their girl posse friends to like them. At first, no, it's not the looks that get their interest, but because the guy is funny, he becomes attractive. (So yes, your theory about it being a secondary quality is valid.) If it's worth anything here, I don't like dating "really" good-looking guys. They're usually cocky, douchey, and not all that bright. On the other hand, I'm a big fan of stable and ambitious. If he drives a Corolla because he's saving for his dream home and building his 401K, that's damn sexy. It depends on the person and what they want from a significant other. I prefer witty to funny as well, since people who try too hard to be funny usually get on your nerves after a while. (No offense.) So, there you go--an honest woman's response.

Dear Rahul, Relationships are not about either l...

2011-09-06T13:38:26.861-07:00

Dear Rahul,

Relationships are not about either looks or humor. They're about 96 other things.
I asked Cee Lo Green to marry me on Twitter last night. I told my mom about it:
Mom: Isn't his body weird?
Me: I don't care. He's brilliant.

Swear. I'd marry him only because I feel like being with him would be a hoot. On the other hand, there has to be some sort of rumblings in the loin region in order for anything to work. Amiright? You gotta want to jump some bones in the interest of procreation. So... I think women care about both. It's just not as fun to talk about the other stuff with friends.
"You have to hear the way he joked about holding my purse" < "His chest is like mounds of butter."

cerely,
renne